Believe that doing chores is important

Chores:

build self-esteem as children see that they are capable, competent and able to contribute to the family
instill work habits that last a lifetime, including delaying gratification
teach skills needed to become independent and fully-functioning adults

Strive for success

Start with chores that your children can easily accomplish
Keep the amount of time needed to complete chores short
Keep the number of tasks to be completed small
Be sure that the plan and timetable fits into the family’s schedule
Be patient as children learn new skills and work habits

Work with your children

Solicit their input
Allow children to select those tasks that they find most appealing
Make sure they know how to do the task; demonstrate how to do it
Make clear your expectations for a job well done
Give them flexibility about when they will complete the tasks

Set a positive tone

Be confident in your decision to implement a chore plan in your family
Model a positive approach to doing your “chores”
Celebrate your children’s accomplishments
Chores don’t have to be a “chore.” Lighten the mood with humor, music, games, etc.

Promote responsibility and accountability

Expect your children to live up to their agreements
Have consequences in place for non-compliance
Work together to solve problems as they arise
Re-evaluate the plan with your children in a few weeks when they are young and at least several times a year when they are older
Be flexible and willing to adjust the plan as needed

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